Europe needs to get real on defence; Britain needs to get real on Europe
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BEEF UP SAYING HOW GRATEFUL YOU FEEL
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SIR: your blog observations, 1 September, “No Worries” possibly ousting thank you out of pole position as an expression of gratitude, yes, abit of eavesdropping today confirmed your worst suspicions
And it’s got to stop. It’s a pleasure to leave comment here, because you, sir, are a Gentleman-Blogger. Whereas other bloggers are virtually the doolally Village Idiot incarnate. Therefore, like me, know jacksh*t ‘bout nuffinck to speak of
I sense an urgent need for a fresh approach to politeness. For example, during today, when I did say “thank you” I sounded like a Complete Wuss. Lifeless, and limp as the local vicar’s handshake, with “you’re welcome” – I fared no better
So, no choice but to retreat, in search of fresh strategy. First, I wondered what outcome do we expect from these daily micro-interactions with folks we hardly know?
Suppose my very life depended on making the next human being I bumped into feel “juiced, emotionally juiced, in the moment” – that means, for me to feel alive, I have to fulfil their basic psychological need for significance, to acknowledge their importance, right? Proof they matter
But those poor devils, out there. After yet another grim, bleak, long Monday at the office, shuffling paperwork, and knowing worse follows all week till Friday, hell, we’d ALL yearn for a moment that makes us feel like someone extra-special
For instance, say you’re a supermarket shopgirl, stuck behind a counter in front of a till, checking out barcodes on junk food all day. Yet, chances are, you mostly get ignored by the very customers you’re serving. Bewildering, that
Nor do they need “no worries” and “thank you” expressions. Prolonged eye-contact, perhaps? Mmm, that sounds more promising, if appropriate. Paying them one genuine compliment? Now, you’re talking. Getting better
If a muffled “thank ya” is the best gratitude we can muster, then bland, unsmiling silence in response is about as much “response” as we deserve. Didn’t going to school teach us to try that little bit harder? We were told “politeness costs nothing” – remember? Same goes for compliments, I’d guess. Ironically, when they connect, they make YOU feel better, in return
Why’s that, then? Maybe because the special quality of such day-to-day, mini-exchanges is in direct proportion to the amount of your Self you are willing to share with other people. Sharing produces that synergy where one plus another one equals beyond a mere two. Far beyond, especially if, given time, you get exceptionally good at it
In the anecdote you relate, (your blog, same day, 1 September), getting the bottled water you asked for, from the Lady of Primrose Hill, then mechanically blurting out a muffled “ffanks, love” may’ve made you sound like the Complete Wuss my own experiments today made me feel
Instead of expecting something quotable and legendary, in response to my grunted mutter, I propose to give more first, then maybe get something back later. Yes, I really am that naïve. Or else it’s your own Life you ruin, if you can’t be arsed to apply wiser strategies
So, next time you petition the Lady of Primrose Hill would she please condescend to allow a Thirsty Soul like yours, to purchase bottled water, let your mindset think more resourcefully and elegantly first
Only then, open your mouth and speak more eloquently from there. There, you can feel the difference. Oh, unless you’re racked with self-doubt. And renowned for your self-effacing humility and nervous modesty. But hey, you aren’t. Or are you?
Trevor Malcolm
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I’m sure the French structured system of local government helps. Their local councils have much more influence than do our town or parish councils.
Whilst the Départements get on with the dull old business of local government such as emptying the bins and keeping the streetlights lit, these genuinely local councils (which have real powers and significant budgets) take care of the local environment making decisions such as what colour the geraniums in the traffic-calming planters should be and on similarly important (I’m not being completely facetious) local matters.
I was chatting once to a deputy mayor in Provence (comme on fait) and he explained how the system helps to nip low-level antisocial behaviour in the bud. Because people feel genuinely involved in decisions about their local environment they are more likely to help in its protection.
Our, typically British, hotch-potch of local government with its muddle of one, two and three tier arrangements seems far less engaging (but, alas, almost impossible to reform – there’s far too much inertia, “the old ways are the best”)…
As a French resident i look forward to hearing your words of wisdom….The French media were of course obsessed with Sarkozy’s holiday plans this summer(or more accurately they are obsessed with his wife Carla Bruni) I see GB braved the Lake District this year..how wonderfully British..Oh and once more I find myself agreeing with you (this must stop) about family first..
Did you join the prayer group? Did TB?
It helps that Paris has a socialist mayor, not blundering Boris. What I dread about the Olympics is the idea of all the work being done by Blair and then Brown’s governments, and Cameron and Johnson lording it. Please God don;t let it happen
Bienvenu en France – si tot apres vos vacances… merci d’avoir reconnu l’importance de nos petites stades. Dommage que c’est Londres et non pas Paris pour 2012. J’aime votre blog et votre roman m’a beaucouip plu. Je regarderai Popcom
PS I think it may help that their local councils are relatively free of party politics.
But my perceptions may be clouded by holiday-induced rose-tinted specs and of course l’herbe de l’autre homme semble toujours plus verte
Interesting post, Alastair!
I’ve always been staunchly anti-socialist and convinced that places like France are doomed, but whenever I go there, I marvel at how beautiful and functional it seems to be. France does indeed have some very nice municipal stadia, just as it has beautiful towns without identikit shops. (Where in Britain can you find a town without a McDonald’s, Marks & Spencer, Pizza Express, WHSmith, Burger King etc.?)
It think that governments in France just care less about what people think. If something is a good idea — and benefits the country — they just go ahead and do it. This is why they have a sensible nuclear programme, an incredible high-speed rail link, and managed to build their bit of the channel tunnel *years* before we did.
I still right-wing private enterprise is the best way forward for Britain, but the situation in France certainly makes you think.
Sorry. Meant to write, “I still think…”
Why shouldn’t people who work 24/7 under international scrutiny have a decent holiday?
I want my decision makers rested, refreshed & happy, not exhausted and divorced.